Went OCD on the computer again today. Hacked into my husbands Yahoo accounts (there may be a secret one I don't know about) and then was able to get more email communications for my "just in case" file and also have changed his login for his two aim.com emails that he used the most for his porn addiction.
Also to into one of his gmail accounts I had to change his password. I feel bad that I went into his main email but since trust has been shattered he should be doing everything in his power to stay on the straight and narrow. I feel I should be able to ask him to show me every email he has at any time I want. He did go to his old aim.com account and delete everything. Part of why I forwarded everything to my own email account that he doesn't have access to.
All this research is to protect me. My sister had a horrible divorce about 15 years ago-her husband "Michael" had an affair with the married neighbor and during counseling he finally admitted to it but swore that was the only one. The counselor said to get through this and be able to stay together Michael needed to tell his parents the truth about their problems. On the drive to his parents, Michael pulled over the car and told my sister he couldn't do it. They returned home and she filed papers the next day. Since my sister had no true proof of the affair, Michael was able to lie under oath and not pay for her legal bills or pay spousal support.
Even that first morning when I found out about this double life that David was living, I was forwarding all of these horrible emails to my account while trying to see through tears. I have done research and what he has done and what I have proof of does not count as infidelity or adultery in my state. But with the HUNDREDS of emails, HOURS of online chatting and DOZENS of naked photos I think I would have a good case for neglect or at least that my husband is an idiot.
My husband had a secret yahoo email and yahoo messenger account...I saw him checking these daily on his computer history. I do not know what they email address is let alone the password. Is there anyway to hack into them without this info?
ReplyDeleteOk...ready for some secret CIA stuff! Well you came to the right stalker. My husband thought he could erase everything just by clearing the cache everytime he logged out. Well he married the wrong woman if he thinks that is enough to keep me from finding info on his computer.
ReplyDeleteOK...first try...this is how I found out...try going to mail.aol.com and see if anyone is logged in and go to yahoo.com and see if anyone is logged in. These two websites sometimes don't log you out unless you turn off the computer or clear your "cookies". If your husband is leaving his computer history then he may not know that. Also try google.com as well. Those seem to be the most popular for setting up secret accounts. Heck my account that I write on is just for SA stuff. My cosa group, this blog, my support groups.
Now for the deep digging stuff....
1. go to the start button on the lower left side of the screen and right click
2.click explore-this should show you a list of everything on the computer on the left side.
3. choose local disc (usuall C drive)
4. Look on this list and select "program files"
***it may say that opening this or changing this could cause problems with your computer...continue. we aren't changing anything we are just looking at files.
5. click on program files.
6. near the bottom there should be a Yahoo! file-click on it
7.click on messenger
8. click on profiles.
9. there you should see his screen name as well as yours if you have one.
10. Now you know his screename just add yahoo.com to the end of it.
11. Open the folder
12. open archive folder
13. open messages folder-this will show you who he has been chatting with, when and also the actual message (in a .dat file).
Two paths to try now. I knew my husbands Yahoo account info but he had two secret aim.com accounts. My husband ususally uses the same password so getting into the known yahoo account was not hard. If you know his primary account (one that he does admit to and you send emails to) you can see if you can get into that one and then have yahoo send the password again and odds are it will be to that email. That is how I got my husbands aim.com passwords and then changed them so he can't go into them or close them.
If you just want to see what he has been chatting about then follow these steps.
1. right click on the messages folder that is on the list to the left...we want to put these somewhere you can access them in case he deletes them one day.
2. find a folder under your document that you feel comfortable saving this copy.
(click on left side "documents and setting" then "my documents" then put them in here.
3. to paste have your arrow over the file you want to save it to and left click and hit paste.
Now I knew my husbands chats where no good because he was chatting with women with screen names like Lickmehard and Sassykitty. Not a good sign.
4. Go to the website http://www.archive-decoder.com/
5. where it says browse find that folder that you copied and go into messages, archive, chat girls name, and finally a .dat file.
6. the conversation will open in a new field (the other persons name defaults to ufriend but you can see the real name on the folder the .dat file was in).
Remember to copy and paste anything bad and send it to a personal email account. That way if your computer crashes or gets stolen you have the information. Aol.com has good emails because there is no limit on storage. I needed that because of the amount of photos on my husbands account.
I hope you find nothing. I hope his chats are about fantasy football and things like that. I hope this helps. Feeling something is wrong but not knowing is an awful.